By Rachel Rubenstein, LCSW

“To come out or not come out?” that is the question many teens are talking about. PRIDE month (every June) is a great time to celebrate our LGBTQ2+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or questioning, two-spirited) community. It’s always important to focus on sexuality, gender identity, who we are, and acceptance of ourselves and others.

It is a healthy sign that you are considering sharing your authentic self with your family and/or friends. Coming out is important. As with anything important it is a good idea to have a plan. First, notice the level of acceptance with those you are considering telling. You can bring up LGBTQ2+ themed movies or issues in the news. Next, what will you say? Think about the actual words you will use. It doesn’t have to be a formal a speech, but it certainly can be helpful to think through what you will say. It’s also a good idea to have a trusted friend or caring person who already knows and accepts you. In case you get a less than positive response and need that support it is good to have that person there for you. The timing is important as well. When stressors are high, or moods are low may be a more challenging time to share such important information. Be sure you feel safe, comfortable and ready to come out. You get to decide.

Learn more about LGBTQ2+ related topics at The Trevor Project, One n Ten, GLSEN (there are many more great resources you can find.)Also, NCOD (National Coming out Day) is celebrated every October 11th. Be sure to remember, every day is a great time to honor and celebrate who we are. You’ve got this!


Rachel Rubenstein is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with over 20 years of experience providing mental health wellness services. Rachel is an EMDR trained provider with a special focus on working with adolescents and young adults. She dedicates her tele-health private practice to teaching Coping and Life Skills, supporting people through transitions and life challenges.